tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97947582899206598.post3029933515807104040..comments2024-01-19T19:28:16.564-08:00Comments on ScientistMother: raising my own little experimentS: Still struggling to find a directionScientistMotherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02540317551396323613noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97947582899206598.post-73853038748052525802008-07-08T18:19:00.000-07:002008-07-08T18:19:00.000-07:00I suffered through a heinous first PhD advisor and...I suffered through a heinous first PhD advisor and a totally dysfunctional post-doc advisor, and made the really tough decision, both times, to get out rather than let my family and sanity suffer. If you have options, use them and free yourself- it will work out in the long run. Hang in there, and be strong!! BTW, I have a couple of entries about these entries on my own blog, which I hope Dr. Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18102128125294189232noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97947582899206598.post-64105332860474486842008-07-08T17:31:00.000-07:002008-07-08T17:31:00.000-07:00p.s. you might have already seen this post by Fema...p.s. you might have already seen <A HREF="http://science-professor.blogspot.com/2008/07/inheritance.html" REL="nofollow">this post</A> by Female Science Professor about students who switch adviser.Cath@VWXYNot?https://www.blogger.com/profile/01164268321173313605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97947582899206598.post-47815337084027358372008-07-08T14:46:00.000-07:002008-07-08T14:46:00.000-07:00If he's bad enough that people are leaving in numb...If he's bad enough that people are leaving in numbers, then other faculty in your department will know his reputation (or will very soon). Is there anyone in your department or on your committee that you trust who you could approach for advice?<BR/><BR/>A friend of mine left a bad lab situation about 6 months into her PhD (remember that a UK PhD is 3 years). She was told that she would never findCath@VWXYNot?https://www.blogger.com/profile/01164268321173313605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97947582899206598.post-67737403317488226712008-07-04T16:36:00.000-07:002008-07-04T16:36:00.000-07:00Golly- I should have read this sooner. I guess it...Golly- I should have read this sooner. I guess it all depends on the situation -but the bottom line is you have to look out for yourself, not your PI, not your labmates- you and your family. Period. <BR/><BR/>If switching labs is best for you, then you should do it. No ifs ands or buts...<BR/><BR/>As for choosing the next PI- you are going to have to be direct and ask some tough questions of theAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97947582899206598.post-73463792910980501362008-07-03T20:00:00.000-07:002008-07-03T20:00:00.000-07:00If he's being called to table for inappropriate co...If he's being called to table for inappropriate comments, that might smooth over the politics of changing labs. I too am disgusted about the student being censored, but not surprised. Things get around. There's an expectation of honesty and privacy ... but where there are extra ears and other-student egos and politics involved, things get said. <BR/><BR/>Remember your own statement. Never make a Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97947582899206598.post-27910677349350077592008-07-03T14:27:00.000-07:002008-07-03T14:27:00.000-07:00Seriously -- he censored what his students were al...Seriously -- he censored what his students were allowed to tell you about him? And it worked?!? That's absurd. At my university, all new students are encouraged to speak with current students when picking a lab, and those conversations always happen behind closed doors, with 100% expectation of honesty and privacy. People tend to explain both the good and the bad, without any fear of reprisalNickyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15614845410446113639noreply@blogger.com