tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97947582899206598.post6059722652448196528..comments2024-01-19T19:28:16.564-08:00Comments on ScientistMother: raising my own little experimentS: What do you do when you don't like your familyScientistMotherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02540317551396323613noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97947582899206598.post-14372772729819113622010-04-14T14:02:17.096-07:002010-04-14T14:02:17.096-07:00Oh, sorry to hear that the parental pressure isn&#...Oh, sorry to hear that the parental pressure isn't diluted by the other grandchildren! That just seems so strange to me for young children to NOT be on a schedule! I know everyone is different, and my husband and I aren't fanatics about routine, but we find that it really does help stave off the tantrums!<br /><br />Ah, well, different folks... Hang in there, SM>The bean-momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00411250616280191525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97947582899206598.post-36089539144330133882010-04-13T21:40:04.849-07:002010-04-13T21:40:04.849-07:00Anon - Yes and No. I don't ever see myself as ...Anon - Yes and No. I don't ever see myself as 9-5 worker and as my kid gets older, his life will be busy too. He'll have his activities and will want to hang out with his friends..I'm going to have to figure out how to deal with this.<br /><br />Cath - Routines are so essential to preventing or stopping tantrums. Monkey knows what to expect and is able to deal. When he's overtiredScientistMotherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02540317551396323613noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97947582899206598.post-9517005703447372982010-04-13T10:55:19.103-07:002010-04-13T10:55:19.103-07:00I'm sorry. This sounds really tough, especiall...I'm sorry. This sounds really tough, especially with having them so close. No advice, unfortunately, my family situation and the associate difficulties are rather different... (though this might well change when we have a kid).Ameliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10483756694695666215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97947582899206598.post-55248205395495937762010-04-13T06:33:33.861-07:002010-04-13T06:33:33.861-07:00Wow. I know that there there is a lot of emphasis...Wow. I know that there there is a lot of emphasis on family closeness and duty in Asian cultures (my own family is Asian, although a different ethnicity--we're Thai-Chinese), but those demands are *really* out-of-control! Does your sister have children yet? Perhaps when she does, she will be more understanding of your duties to your own nuclear family, and the grandparental attention can beThe bean-momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00411250616280191525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97947582899206598.post-32154182977901878792010-04-12T10:22:23.236-07:002010-04-12T10:22:23.236-07:00Wow - you've mentioned their demanding nature ...Wow - you've mentioned their demanding nature before, but when you list it all out like this, it really drives it home (and makes my current annoyance with my parents seem very minor in comparison). I'm sorry you're in such a frustrating situation.<br /><br />All the kids I know who have a fixed routine seem much better behaved and more settled than the ones without. So keep up the Cath@VWXYNot?https://www.blogger.com/profile/01164268321173313605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97947582899206598.post-36325518819825451032010-04-11T21:04:05.117-07:002010-04-11T21:04:05.117-07:00Anonymous again. Might I add that when you do att...Anonymous again. Might I add that when you do attain your doctorate, these very same family members will be the first to be bragging about you, as if they are the full driving force behind your achievement. Because this is how families from "traditional" cultures behave ... though in some ways it's a little more refreshing than how "westernized" families handle their Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97947582899206598.post-46875405059497533522010-04-11T20:31:08.203-07:002010-04-11T20:31:08.203-07:00MM - I know! They think they're the only peopl...MM - I know! They think they're the only people in the childs life. Its freaking annoying!<br /><br />Chall - Sometimes I wish I didn't. All they ever want is stuff that makes them happy. When will I finish school, so I can spend time with them. When will I have another kid for them. When will I spend all my time with them....<br /><br />Anon1 - they are smart! Last night monkey said he ScientistMotherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02540317551396323613noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97947582899206598.post-39951133626775242112010-04-11T19:33:44.487-07:002010-04-11T19:33:44.487-07:00I think that the cultural baggage makes this situa...I think that the cultural baggage makes this situation worse. In the South Asian culture, there is an expectation of sacrifice and respect placed on women that is unhealthy. All I can say is hold your ground. From reading your blogposts, you sound like a loving and caring mom and an awesome role model. Don't let others tell you how to be - be true to yourself! Hang in there!unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05949487275042211766noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97947582899206598.post-6865694976690448582010-04-11T14:51:45.392-07:002010-04-11T14:51:45.392-07:00Do you have any advice for sort of handling people...Do you have any advice for sort of handling people who expect you to say that your family is perfect and you get along great? People seem to be generally horrified if I tell them that I don't enjoy my time back home, or that I don't have any common ground with one of my parents. Do you ever have other people accuse you of being selfish and unloving for not wanting to accommodate your Enginerdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02331969981125587334noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97947582899206598.post-58549193298062110442010-04-11T09:42:51.204-07:002010-04-11T09:42:51.204-07:00Kids are smart and yours will soon figure out what...Kids are smart and yours will soon figure out what the deal is.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97947582899206598.post-18646429863518162602010-04-10T16:04:50.261-07:002010-04-10T16:04:50.261-07:00I'm sorry.
I feel like saying "at least ...I'm sorry.<br /><br />I feel like saying "at least you have given them a grand child" I'm currently having some kind of strange situation where my family is slightly feeling punished by me since I have not provided a grand child... I'm mean to them by not thinking about thier feelings and providing with children "like everyone else have".... family, not easy.challhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10421219663804628119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-97947582899206598.post-46299773354197217002010-04-10T15:32:56.794-07:002010-04-10T15:32:56.794-07:00I think this is a common feeling, just as common a...I think this is a common feeling, just as common as liking your family, and it's good for you to say it 'out loud'- and brave. Setting limits with grandparents can be REALLY hard- I've been there too.Maggie Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14699674732274478502noreply@blogger.com